The Wisdom of Elephants, and Other Fall Reflections

October is here, and as usual, this first full month of Autumn will spread its beautiful rainbow of colors. I of course get to view all of the season’s beauty in upstate New York, but recently I saw that my niece had posted some fabulous leaf colors from Colorado. They were so breathtaking! Wherever you are, enjoy the season!

Since it’s October, Columbus Day weekend is coming up. Now I know that recently Christopher Columbus has come under intense criticism for his actions, which I don’t want to get into here. But from a practical standpoint, it’s a three-day weekend for many of us, and thus a chance to do something special.

So, what to do? Well, if you’re in or near any of the places where the trees are a rainbow of colors, how about a short trip to the country?

The Fall is a time to embark on, or continue, an adventure. It’s akin to Spring in that respect – a moment when we can take advantage of the energy of the season, and let our thoughts, desires, and intuition flow and guide us.

Autumn is, as we know, the harvesting season, so a good time to let things manifest. Take a look at what you’ve been working on and see what you can reap as part of a next step.

Flashback! Do you, as I do, remember as a kid, watching the leaves fall, and then jumping into a pile of dry leaves and hearing them crackle? What joy! Or maybe you just walked through a pile of leaves, or picked out a leaf and traced around it on a piece of paper, as part of an exercise in art.

Speaking of “art,” in case you haven’t noticed, there are now coloring books for adults. Check it out, another way to meditate, free your thoughts, and reap the benefits of Autumn as the season flows through your veins.

I know those who read my newsletter notice that I sometimes report on current events. Well, here’s one that’s most interesting. Recently, Congress passed a bill to crack down on Wildlife Trafficking, which, as of this writing, is still awaiting the President’s signature. See more information here.

After reading about this proposed legislation, I couldn’t help but think of the iconic elephants, and how they are subjected to torture and death by insensitive humans who engage in the repulsive ivory trade, which of course is negatively impacting the elephants’ population. (Who is buying ivory nowadays, anyway? Geez! Wake up!) These thoughts prompted me to re-publish an article I wrote back in 2013, devoted to Laurence Anthony and his love of the elephants. Here it is:

The Story of Anthony (1950-2012): Lawrence Anthony is a legend in South Africa, and author of three books including the bestseller, The Elephant Whisperer. Mr. Anthony bravely rescued wildlife and rehabilitated elephants all over the globe, protecting them from human atrocities. His efforts included the courageous rescue of Baghdad Zoo animals during the U.S. invasion in 2003.

On March 7, 2012, Lawrence Anthony died. He is remembered and missed by his wife, two sons, two grandsons, and a countless number of elephants.

Two days after Mr. Anthony’s passing, separate wild herds of elephants led by matriarchs arrived to say goodbye to their beloved “man-friend.” A total of 31 elephants had patiently walked over 112 miles to get to his South African home.

Witnessing this spectacle, people were in awe, not only because of the supreme intelligence and precise timing that these elephants sensed and displayed regarding Mr. Anthony’s passing, but also because of the profound memory and emotion the beloved animals evoked in such an organized way. Walking slowly, for days, they made their way in a solemn one-by-one queue from their habitat to his home.

Mr. Anthony’s wife, Francoise, was especially touched, knowing that elephants had not been to their house prior to that day for well over three years! But yet, the elephants knew where they were, and why. They obviously wanted to pay their deep respect for, and honor, their man-friend who had done so much to save the lives of so many elephants. In tribute, the elephants stayed for two full days and nights, without eating anything – a collective ritual no human can truly explain. Then, having paid homage to their human loved one, the elephants left, and began their long journey back home.

This story always leaves me in tears, for it symbolizes the power of Love in all of God’s creatures. I have known for many years from working with animal communicators how unbelievably communicative elephants can be. And here, in this story, we see testimony to that fact.

It is my belief that, at the time of this marvelous event, Mr. Anthony had looked down from the heavens, smiled, and basked in the glory and respect displayed so magnificently by the magical parade of his beloved elephants!

Which reminds me . . . one of the most significant events of my own life was going to Africa. I urge any of you who have the thought or inclination, to add a visit to Africa to your serious bucket list. If my prompting here succeeds, you will thank me.

On a completely different note . . . Looking forward to sharing love, connections, and Autumn with all of you as I make my way from St. Louis, to Chicago, to California, and beyond! I’m also happy to be returning to the Cape Cod area in MA (details to be announced soon) for another event this fall – I hope to see some of you there, as well!

The Special Bond of Fathers and Children

Welcome to June, and of course, the upcoming Vernal Equinox which arrives June 20th.

During the Vernal Equinox, day and night are each approximately 12 hours long (with the actual time of equal day and night, in the Northern Hemisphere, occurring a few days before). The sun crosses the celestial equator going northward, rises exactly due east, and sets exactly due west.

For all you season lovers, and especially those who are longing for summer – well . . . it’s coming up and you’re going to hit the jackpot. A wonderful time for graduations, weddings, and for me always, a very personal Father’s Day.

As I always say, one of the most special privileges I have in doing the work I do is connecting with people’s departed loved ones. Recently, I was doing a session where a young mother had just lost her father. Her having a newborn daughter actually added to the woman’s missing her dad, for she was feeling that he wouldn’t be around to see his granddaughter. Of course, we know that “Grandpa” will be around – although not in the physical way that his daughter would want him to be. I remember her words in describing her father and they stuck with me. I found them in one way to be very profound in the energy they carried, and in another way the perfect description of what a father means to so many of us. She said, in a very special way, “He was the salt of the earth!” When she spoke these words, I “breathed” them in and felt how wonderful this young woman’s childhood had been with her dad, and how that magnificent experience will be in her heart and soul throughout her life, and after. Although she is sad that her dad has passed over to the Other Side, it is so beautiful that she experienced the love of such a man, and grew up being “Daddy’s Girl.”

I will tell you that in my many travels, connecting with people all over the world, and beyond, there are some pretty wonderful dads out there who have been just as special. Another example: I was just recently doing my Mother’s Day show, and there was a woman there who made a comment: “Why don’t you do a ‘Father’s Day’ show?” Not a bad idea! But . . . there were many chuckles in the room, even among the DJs – I guess because the work I do is not as appreciated among the males of the species as it is among the females. But honestly, truth be told, there are many dads, brothers, sons, and boyfriends – guys – who get it! And even if they don’t get it, they have worked tirelessly and endlessly to make sure that their moms, sisters, girlfriends and daughters, are provided with evidence of Love. That is, these guys have been “taking care” of their gals in the best ways that they can. And so, at the event, I gave everyone an opportunity to “shout out” how much every dad was appreciated.

Fathers and mothers – where would we be without them?

And of course there is Mother Earth, whom I always honor, even on Father’s Day. For it is she who feeds, clothes, and houses us . . . together with Father Sun beaming down upon us, making this Planet Earth of ours . . . inhabitable.

I would like to personally pay tribute to all those organizations and everyday citizens who are devoted to taking care of Mother Earth. I speak for the many who were so hopeful after the G12 conference in Paris, with people from all over the world coming together and making a pact to do the right thing in lowering greenhouse gases, and whatever else needs to be done in those places facing drought or other scarcities.

In this vein, let me share that I was recently watching a documentary about Kansas farmers whose farm had been in the family for five generations. The current owners, young sons and daughters, know that unless there is a change in the water situation, they will no longer be able to provide for their families. The crisis goes on in so many areas. I could relate. During a recent visit to KC, I had a few in-depth conversations with the folks there about water. I know what that Kansas family is facing.

Water isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity for all living things. I know water is a “cause” for many, and especially for folks who live in arid parts of the world. For they are facing extreme challenges.

From wherever you are, do all you can do personally, and in your morning and/or evening prayers, don’t forget Mother Earth, especially on Father’s Day.

Please allow me to conclude this month’s newsletter with a GREAT BIG “THANK YOU” to Terri Daniel for yet another wonderful Afterlife Conference. I can’t begin to share all of the inspiring words that I heard throughout the event, many of which were spoken to me personally. The conference was so very important for so many. It was my honor to have participated. If you are wondering whether you should attend next year, don’t worry. Just go! You won’t be sorry.

Oh . . . at the conference, a woman from Canada came up to me and said that she would not have known about the conference if I hadn’t mentioned it in my newsletter. So glad to hear that! She had a great time. Maybe next time, that will be you! Next year the event will be in Portland. I will remind you.

As I write this newsletter, it’s that kind of day here in the Northeast where if you’re near the ocean, lake, pond or pool . . . jump in!

Have a happy June! Enjoy your fun in the sun and Father’s Day celebrations – even if your dad is on the Other Side. He will be watching over you. Guaranteed!

Please check my calendar for my upcoming summer events. I’ll keep you all posted! Meanwhile, for those of you in Baltimore, since I didn’t make it to you this past December, I’ll be doing a Saturday afternoon event June 18th. Again, please check my calendar for details.

The Merry Month of May!

Happy Month of May! Most of you know that this is my favorite month of the year. Not because it’s my birth-month, but because in May, one can really feel that Spring has arrived.

I think it’s no coincidence that Mother’s Day comes in May, since May truly signifies the birth of Spring.

Needless to say, mothers are very important to us all, often THE most important person in our lives. Whether your relationship with mom is/was good, not so good, or really, really, really not good, it is still a key relationship. In one way or another, your relationship with mom will impact your entire life, and many, if not all, of your interpersonal relationships.

My friend Jane is always saying how she thanks her mother for all she’s learned, even though they have shared a very difficult relationship. There is wisdom in that perspective. We should all be thankful for the challenges we endure because, like old-fashioned photographs, we develop from the negative.

I recently had a wonderful session in which a young lady (let’s call her Mary, not her real name) came to me because she was receiving messages from her deceased mom and wanted to see if I could validate what was happening. What I got was that this was one wonderful mother who shared a rare honestly with her children.

There was a beach house that had been passed down from Mary’s grandparents who had borrowed money so that the family would be able to enjoy their summers together. Mary’s mother then passed the beach house to her and sisters but purposefully left out one sister who the mother knew would, because of her personality, create immeasurable problems in the family. Also excluded from the will was Mary’s only brother who was/is a gambler and drinker.

This was a mother who not only knew her children well but had the courage to make sure that the sharing of the beach house, which has now been in the family for generations, would remain a place of enjoyment. I don’t have to tell you how expensive beach property is, and nowadays buying one would be beyond the economic capacity of this extended family to purchase. I am sure Mary’s mom went through much soul searching before deciding to exclude two of her own children from her will for the sake of those that would continue to keep the beach house special, and free of acrimony.

During the session, as I sat there feeling how amazing a woman Mary’s mother was/is, I could not help but focus on the courage it took to exclude two of her own children from her last will and testament. More often than not, in my work, I often see how issues like this are often ignored, and then all the unfinished business causes chaos and splits families apart.

I’ve said it before and will share it a thousand times more – For those of us fortunate enough to possess some material wealth, there are three things we need to have:

  1. A will. It’s not only about money and property but also about your wishes regarding how you feel things should proceed after you transition. Be wise in whom you name as executor of your will. This should be someone you can trust to honor your wishes.
  2. Health proxy. Many of us know, or have at least heard about, the nightmare of not having someone appointed to make major decisions when a loved one is in a coma or on life support. Make sure you designate some who is NOT weak of heart. This needs to be someone who will, no matter what, follow your wishes, for example, with a DNR (do not resuscitate).
  3. Power of attorney. Again, if for some reason you cannot or are unable to make a decision while you are still alive, make sure you appoint someone who will carry out your expressed wishes. If finances are involved, give them the authority to pay your bills, etc. Often this will be the same person you name as the executor of your will, so when the time comes, that person will be familiar with your wishes and economic condition.

Although I connect freely with the Other Side, my work is about the living, as I’ve noted so many times before. For it is we who are left here on Earth, until our time comes, who must process our grief, and figure out how to move on after a loved one crosses over. It’s a challenge! And a time for soul growth. Of course, this may be especially tough for those of you who, this month, will celebrate your first Mother’s Day without your mom. But one thing you can be sure of this: she will be around. Watch for the signs, and trust what you feel and experience. Love never dies, especially a mother’s love.

So, in sum, on this coming Mother’s Day, make sure to celebrate all the mother figures in your life, whether they are alive or crossed over, and whether they are your natural born mothers or someone who has given you that motherly nurturing and loving. This of course includes grandmothers and great grandmothers, etc! Oh, and a reminder for all you husbands out there whose wives are moms-let your wife know how happy you are to be the father (or step-father) of her child or children. Make her feel special because, after all, she is!

One final reminder – never, never, never leave out Mother Earth from your Mother’s Day remembrances. She is the grandest mother of them all, the one who feeds us, houses us, clothes us, and allows us to breathe – while providing so much beauty in the world.

Please note that I will be doing two Mother’s Day events this year. I’m returning to WXLO in Worcester, MA for my 11th year on Friday, May 6, and I will be doing a very special Mother’s Day event in my own city, New York, with fellow medium Thomas John. I’m very excited about both. And, of course, I will again be at the Afterlife Conference in St. Louis on May 12 – 15. I’m so excited to be returning to Kansas City; I’ve been away too long.

Have a marvelous May. I’m so looking forward as always to connecting, spending time, and seeing so many of you again in my travels. As always, new friends are also most welcome!

Signs from the Animal Kingdom

“Who says silence is golden?” I ask, somewhat rhetorically, while sitting in “the quiet of Nature.” As I write, the birds are in rare form shouting, “Spring! Spring! Spring!” For me, this is much more pleasant than experiencing silence. I also love to hear the calm wind blowing through blooming branches, and the sounds of the squirrels and chipmunks scurrying. All those wonderful sounds of life signaling the renewal of Spring. The cycle begins again.

As we all know, humans can make wonderful sounds too, with their voices and/or musical instruments. To name just a few of my favorite compositions: Rite of Spring, The Lark Ascending, Flight of the Bumble Bee, The Four Seasons . . . They’re all wonderful works well worth listening to, again and again. Of course, there are so many pop songs that pay tribute to Spring, and connect Spring to Life and Love, that I dare not start listing them lest I never finish this newsletter!

As we are all so well aware, Life (but not Love) ends in death. Remember though that death is merely a transition to renewed life in another form. This is a positive aspect.

Another positive aspect of death, say of a loved one, is that the experience can lift us to a new level of understanding. I am always quite amazed how death and grief often force us to look within ourselves, which opens a door to discovering what is truly important.

There is and will always be one constant in our earthly lives, and in our lives after death, and that is Love. Love does not die. Love continues on both sides when our loved ones make their transition into the Spirit World.

As I’ve said many times before, it is our DPs’ (dead persons’) responsibility to let us know that they are OK on the Other Side. Likewise, it is our responsibility here on this plane to listen and open our hearts to allow our DPs’ messages to come through.

There are so many ways through which we are able to connect to our DPs – dreams, smells, feeling a presence, electric or electronic happenings, special letters and/or numbers on license plates that grab the eye and heart, billboard messages that resonate, etc.

In many indigenous cultures, animal spirits are key to making a connection to the Other Side. Dr. Steven Farmer, whom I had as a guest on my radio show, is an expert on animal spirits and indigenous traditions. During the show, he focused on the native Hawaiian culture; an excerpt follows.

As I mentioned, every culture has a slightly different take on this idea of animal spirit guides. From ancient Hawaiian spirituality, still alive today, comes the concept of aumakua – spirit guides clothed in the language, customs, and mythos of this culture.

Aumakua (ow-ma-koo-ah) are very simply the spirits of deceased ancestors. They can be called on for protection, guidance, and spiritual support. The very first aumakua were the children of humans who had mated with the Akua, or primary gods, the main ones being Ku (Koo), Kane (Kah-nay), Lono, and Kanaloa (Kah-nah-low-ah). When someone died, they went through a period of time where they stayed with these Akua and thereby acquired a degree of mana, or power. Eventually they could make themselves known to their descendants. One of the most prevalent ways they could make their appearance – although not limited to this – was through animals and animal spirits. They could also show up in the wind, rain, or lightning, or in your dreams. . .

Very soon after her father’s death, Ellen took a walk on the beach. She noticed a dolphin jumping along the water, much closer to shore than usual. She realized that this was her father’s spirit expressing through and in cooperation with the spirit of Dolphin, embodied in the one that was tracking her as she walked along the shore. Ellen was reassured that her father was just fine in the spirit world. His spirit had elicited Dolphin’s help in getting this message to his daughter. This was her aumakua.

(Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/aumakua-familiars-and-spirit-animals-oh-my.html)

These wonderful animal spirit traditions exist to this day, but all we need to do is hang out with our doggie, kitty, bird, or whichever animal being(s) we are connected to, and listen! They will teach us much.

I will never forget the story about when the Tsunami hit Phuket, Thailand, all the elephants went to the high lands, and were saved. You can read about it here. The article discusses how we can learn much from the Nature and Animal kingdoms.

Let me close by reminding you of The Afterlife Conference I do each year, this time in May. The conference always ends with a water ceremony of one kind or another, which provides a wonderful closing to a very special weekend. Hope to see some of you there. I’ll also be appearing in Cromwell, Connecticut; at my special New York City “Mothers’ Day Event”; in Kansas City to which I’ll be returning after a few years; Chicago, and more!

Now . . . Time to get outside and play! It’s Spring! Enjoy!

Deep Thoughts for Spring

Welcome to the advent of Spring! The Spring Equinox arrives March 19th.

Most folks, myself included, love the beginning of Spring! “Bring it on,” as they say. It’s time to plant seeds, literally. And, metaphorically, it’s time to plant “seeds” to bring about the needed changes in our lives – mentally, emotionally, physically and of course spiritually, the core of our being and soul.

March, of course, is filled with many fun holidays, including one of my favorites, St. Paddy’s Day. And for the more religious among us, Purim, Palm Sunday, Good Friday and Easter . . . Whew! Quite extraordinary.

Just recently, a colleague of mine experienced something quite extraordinary, but in a negative way. A neighbor shot her kitty cat, wounding the animal seriously.

While there are many ways to handle painful situations, the rules change a bit if one is a spiritual counselor, as is my colleague. There are do’s and don’t’s.

Of course, we all have experienced the impulse to respond – as they say in the Old Testament – with an eye for an eye. Especially when someone in our family has been hurt. And, as we know, our furry companions are our family!

But that is not the way to go for anyone, especially a spiritual counselor. For we are all part of God. My colleague was of course angry and expressed that to the neighbor but took no steps of revenge, knowing, of course, that, “Karma is a bitch!”

We are all accountable for our actions, period. The person who shot the kitty will be held responsible, at some point, and pay a price. On a brighter note, although the kitty had to have his leg removed, he will in time heal, especially since he is surrounded by a loving family.

Of course, it would be a less joyful world without our furry companions. They are part of the ecological cycle and make the world a more precious, warm, and loving place to live and share. Be clear, that those who honor Mother Earth, also honor the creatures with whom we share this blessed space.

On another note, I recently received an email from a family I saw several years ago in Toronto . . . after my TV show The Afterlife was aired on OutTV in Canada. I remember, it was a very intense session, so much so that I wrote about it in my newsletter. It was wonderful to hear from them again, and learn that their transgender son’s passing did and continues to bring the family closer together in a way they hadn’t been prior to his crossing over to the Other Side.

It had been a heartwarming experience for me to serve as medium for this family, and I can’t help but note how things have changed here in the U.S.A. regarding transgender people. Most of us have moved on from total shock toward an acceptance of the differences among us. The hit TV show Transgender, and the movie The Danish Girl, helped spur things along. And then of course, there’s the story of Caitlyn Jenner.

Reflecting on all this, I recall how honored I felt to be chosen by this family which felt that I would be particularly sensitive to the issues at hand, and that I wouldn’t judge their transgender child who had committed suicide. Thankfully, I was able to convey all the feelings and thoughts that this family so needed to hear and know, from their loved one on the Other Side. Specifically, how the child felt incapable of being who he was, and how he felt to have taken his own life.

Thinking about this family, and knowing what they went through, and realizing that they can still love and forgive, and keep their hearts open, is an inspiration. How wonderful that they can continue to share the experiences their son, who became a daughter, taught them.

Now my friends, I know this is Spring, and that this is not one of my usual light Spring topics. However, I felt that I would be doing a disservice to all those parents and children who have gone through either one of these “taboos,” if I didn’t relay this story. I trust you will understand.

On a related note, hearing Jeffery Tambor speak, after winning the Emmy for his performance as a transgender person, about the greatest blessing he’s ever experienced playing that part, warmed my heart. The world is changing. But the bottom line is, we all want the same things in life, including someone to love.

And we all want warmer weather. So, in the spirit of Spring, remember . . . it is a new beginning for all. Let us head the words of the master, Jesus: “Judge not.” For we are all a part of God. All of our children are and will continue to be part of God. And yes, we will all be met by God and all our deceased loved ones when it is our time to cross over.

But in the meantime, come on! Everyone! Get ready! Soon it will be time to stop hibernating! Lose those coats, jump up and down and watch as the flowers begin to bloom. The breath of Spring is upon us!

Looking forward to sharing some spring fever with many of you!!!!! Check out my calendar for when I may be coming your way!

Matters of the Heart

Welcome to the month of the heart, February! A special thanks to St. Valentine.

It’s been shown to me over and over again, how deeply we are all affected by matters of the heart. When a loved one crosses over, our physical heart’s can actually experience pain. Hence the phrase, “a broken heart.” From my work, I have learned that “matters of the heart” are so very important, not only to us here in the physical, but to our loved ones on the Other Side as well.

My work is about the living. Our loved ones who have crossed over are fine and want very much for us to know that they are well. Why? Because they LOVE us.

Connecting with our loved ones in Spirit helps us experience their continuing love for us. Their focus in letting us know that they are fine on the Other Side is about their love for us. Matters of the heart continue on the Other Side.

Our hearts will ache when we lose a loved one, and we need to process the grief. There is no magic wand to eliminate that journey. We can’t flippantly dismiss the event. It is a path we all must walk.

What I get so often from loved ones in Spirit is that they want us to remember the good times spent together – when we laugh, hugged, or just hung out enjoying each other’s company. Those memories are ours to keep and no one can take them away.

So many DPs (dead persons) tell me that they do NOT want us to focus on the illness that took their life, or feel guilty that we didn’t do enough for them, or be sad if we were not there at the time of their death. If you were not there at your loved one’s passing, it was their choice that things end that way, a choice God gives to all of us.

Another thing that God gives us is the power to enjoy. And love. So enjoy life! And love. Treasure all matters of the heart, the warm loving times, the tender moments, the memories that make you smile, and the one that are so funny that remembering them makes you pee your pants.

Love is and remains the single most significant mental, emotional, spiritual and physical state that we all have. Without it, we would not be human.

One thing I love is when mothers give Valentine cards not only to the fathers of their children, but also to their sons and daughters. I bet that many of you would enjoy going through that old chest of memories your mom has kept and find, amongst other things, the Valentine’s Day cards she has received from you and others over the years.

Another of my favorite things is to travel and connect or reconnect with you wonderful folks. My heart sings when I focus on this aspect of my work. It’s always been something that has been special for me.

Speaking of connecting, I look forward to returning to Florida this month. This year, besides doing groups and an event at the Metaphysical Chapel of Southern Florida, I also will be doing a one day workshop. I am so looking forward to it. Later, I’ll be returning to Lafayette, Louisiana, and St. Louis for the The Sixth Annual Afterlife Conference. Among my other southern stops, I’ll be returning to the Edgar Cayce Association for Research and Enlightenment in Virginia Beach, Virginia this fall. Northern folks, not to worry as I’ll be back to Cromwell, CT in April, doing a special Mother’s Day event with Thomas John in NYC in May, and returning again to wonderful Canyon Ranch in Lenox, MA in March. Please check my calendar for complete details.

How I love sharing matters of the heart!

Connections, Loss, and Love in the Holiday Season

Hope you had a very Happy Thanksgiving, and embraced those precious moments of “Giving Thanks.” Words that say how blessed we are to have family and friends in our lives. Personally, I find these words and the intent behind them to be very uplifting, especially during times of uncertainty.

Very heart-warming and validating to learn that in a study recently published by “Mother Jones,” the number one reason for feeling grateful is friends and family. Indeed, it is the people in our lives who are so important.

And then there are times when we are grateful for not having suffered the way others have, as with the recent inhuman atrocities inflicted on the people of Paris. So sad.

But despite all the war, terror, and violence in the world, Love, of course, remains the most significant force in the Universe. Some would argue that fear is the most powerful, and there is no denying that here on Planet Earth, fear is often in control. However, fear has no power in the Spirit World. On the Other Side, Love is controlling, and connects us to our loved ones who have crossed over. Fear is powerless in that regard.

And even here on Earth in ordinary reality, Love is very powerful, being the force that motivates people to help those in need – be it assisting the homeless in New York City, the refugees in a foreign land, the sick or the dying in our neighborhood, etc. Love is the force that drives the husband who has lost his partner and chooses to travel around the world when there is a season to plant, and instruct those who want to learn organic gardening. Or the sister who continues operating the shelter her brother ran after he contracted MS, and now has trouble just getting out of bed.

You never have to look far to find people who give of themselves, in service of humankind and the Earth that cares for us. For these folks, we should all be thankful. And in your own moments of feeling thanks and gratitude, consider asking yourself, “How can I can embrace Spirit and learn to feel the love of [your beloved DP]?” And further, remember to be thankful for whatever it is your beloved DPs have instilled in you. NO MATTER if the DP most special in your heart at this moment was blood-related or just someone who touched your life for a split second. Whatever it takes to pull the energy in from Spirit, and help us connect with those we love who are still in our hearts – let that be our guidance and inspiration.

It is so wonderful that given all the hardship in the world, there still are so many people who do seek to make a difference. It is this kind of activism – and not all the distorted media focus on all things negative – that I choose to honor and acknowledge.

Let’s take the opportunity to open up our hearts to those we love, give a hug when needed, and make a call to someone who needs to talk. Help someone cross the street or carry their groceries. Light candles for those in need, including ourselves. Make dinner for someone who could use a meal. Give of yourself, of your company. All, of course, if the situation warrants. These are just some of the many small things that mean so much and, as I say, are really the BIG things in life, which I have learned over and over again in doing the work I have been doing for over thirty-five years.

You know, whenever I am working an event and walk into a room, whether it is 50 or 250 people, I know one thing: Everyone is there because they want to connect with their loved ones who they have “lost.” But they are not really lost, are they? They have simply transitioned to where we will all transition one day, and reunite. As I always say, Love never dies, not even with death, and so it is my great honor and privilege to be able to reconnect people with the loved ones they have “lost,” especially during the holiday season.

Around this time of year, I often think about a Christmas when I was in my twenties, on my own, and by myself. I was living in Los Angeles at the time and I was invited into a group. I went, so as to not be alone. I can’t tell you how much love I felt, just being asked to be with others who wanted to include me within their circle of friends. I have never forgotten that special moment which turned out to be within a non-denominational spiritualist community. Another example of how we all remember an act of love and kindness. It is moments like this that we never forget. Looking back, I couldn’t tell you any of the names of the people there, but I most certainly can tell you how they made me feel. Wonderful!

In re-examining the past year, and the years leading up to this time, I see that so many people have gone through a variety of changes, some wonderful, others often challenging. There is a great challenge of course for those of us who have lost someone this year, or for anyone during the holiday season when we are again reminded of our loved ones on the Other Side..

Interesting how many people I’ve met in my travels express that during times of hardship, DP contact is more prevalent and intense. Indeed, if we listen, our DPs (along with our spirit guides and spirit helpers) can help us find what is really important – like performing a service for others – and inspire us to put “doing good” at the top of our list of priorities. Performing a service is good for the soul.

By the way, for the science-minded folks, studies now show that people are happier, healthier, and live longer when they do service for others, and daily express their gratitude for all the gifts they have in their own lives. On this point, there is a very interesting documentary called I am. Check it out!

Also check out my calendar of events. Next up on my calendar is seeing my hometown folks on Friday, December 4th in Nanuet, NY. Also, on my next Blog Talk Radio show – Monday, December 7 – I will be having a full hour of readings live on air! This is my special holiday gift to all of you.

Have a blessed holiday season!

Growing Older, Changing Seasons

Yes, September is here, but there’s still time to dive into a lake, pool, or ocean, and do whatever fun things you like to do in the Summer, as there are three more weeks to go before Autumn officially arrives.

As I write, in New York City the forecast is for sunny skies this upcoming week, with temperatures in the 80’s and 90. So I’m sure many of you, like me, are going to hold on to this Summer for as long as you possibly can. No problem with that, but do remember that Fall for many can be the most breathtaking season of them all. So don’t get too sad that Summer is ending – it happens every year! All part of the seasons of life here on Planet Earth.

Why it is that everyone in the Northeast thinks Summer is the shortest season, and Winter the longest? I guess that’s just how it is. Or maybe it’s because. “Time flies when you’re having fun,” and there is more fun to be had in the Summer. In any event, once again we have the changing of the seasons to remind us of own life changes.

I was recently engaged in a conversation regarding how many baby boomers are still not only dealing with their children and their children’s problems, but with elderly parents as well. The aging-parent syndrome reminds us how life, like each season, runs in cycles, especially if you end up taking care of a parent who raised you.

When caretaking for a parent who was difficult to begin with, the job can be even more challenging. And then of course there are the aging-parent families with siblings – so often it seems that only one brother or sister will take on the major caretaking load, while the others virtually disappear. Not really fair. Ideally, the caretaking chore should be shared among siblings. Of course, if you are an only child with an elderly parent in need of homecare, well, things are made all the more difficult.

I would most respectfully suggest that anyone in a parental homecare role focus for a second on those who have parents on the Other Side. Often the surviving children writhe in guilt, feeling and wondering year after year, “Did I do enough?” when their parents were still alive. I see so much of this in my line of work. If I may suggest, better to do what your conscience dictates now, than to stew in guilt afterward.

As Betty Davis once said, “Getting old is not for sissies,” and likewise, I would say that caring for an aging parent is also not for sissies. If you’ve spent a good part of your life raising children, and then have to help care for a spouse who becomes ill, and later have to care for an elderly parent, well, your season of helping will seem like a career. But most likely, that’s what you signed up for before being born, to present you with an opportunity for even more soul growth during this incarnation. See if you can measure up to the challenge, and good luck to you!

I was once asked why most mediums don’t talk about elderly folks who have lost a spouse. I was like, “What?” For this question has a false premise. In my work experience, nothing could be further from the truth. I have encountered many widows and widowers who have lost a spouse of 30, 40, or 50 or more years. Their Love (like all existing Love) goes on after death, as I have said many times. It’s all part of the seasons of our lives.

Although death is often associated with Winter (when the trees lose their leaves and the essence of plant life disappears into the Earth), it actually doesn’t matter in what season a death occurs. Symbolically, it is Winter for those going through the process of grieving over the passing of a loved one. But, as is with Winter, let us not forget that there is beauty in death, as that the soul survives and returns to its natural state in a place many call “Heaven.”

For those of us still alive on this beautiful Planet Earth, let us recognize that it is not Winter yet here in September, 2015. Heck, it’s not even Autumn. There are weeks of Summer to go! For now my friends, enjoy the rest of what has been a beautiful Summer (at least in the Northeast), and as we transition into Autumn, open your mind to let those falling leaves and magnificent colors inspire you to carry on, during the remainder of this, and your next, season of life.

The Importance of Forgiveness

August clearly has to be for many, a favorite month. “Summertime, and the Living is Easy,” as the song goes. A good time to unwind and enjoy life a bit more, feel young again while enjoying all those summer activities we did as children, back then perhaps with our loved ones who have since made their transition.

I know our DPs have a hand in showing us the beauty of Nature. Maybe you came from a family of fisher-people, sharing meals over a campfire under the sky, eating the fish that your mom just caught with lures your grandfather had made. Or perhaps your uncle was an avid bird watcher, and could whistle their sounds, and caw like a crow.

I might also remind some of you who say you’re city people, Teddy Roosevelt was raised in NYC. When he became sick, his father took him to the Adirondacks which is where he learned his love of Nature. The result is well . . . without saying, you should check out the amount of land he protected which led to the creation of the National Park, amazing for a so-called New York City boy! I would encourage anyone with “i-Generation” children (Hey! Did I just coin that term?) to encourage them to put down their i-everything’s (iPhone, iPad, etc.), and let them experience an incredible day or week in Nature – a wonderful way to experience or recapture the magic of youth.

I would also suggest that you never forget your childhood and mature dreams and visions. You have them for a reason, and part of the mystery is to figure out that reason.

One way I have found to connect to those dreams and visions is to take a walk through the woods, or ride in a quiet canoe or sailboat, or just gaze at the stars or a beautiful sunset. Of course, all oceans, lakes, and ponds are also part of Nature, and all so beautiful – unless of course the polluters have ruined things. But thank heavens for the environmental movement of which Teddy Roosevelt would be proud. We should all seek to preserve Mother Nature’s majesty and beauty. I have always believed, as many others do, that Nature is God’s true church and temple. Connect with Nature and you will be empowered, for Nature’s essence is empowering. I know with so many of you that I may be preaching to the choir, but it is worth remembering and reflecting on the fact that the Earth feeds and houses us, and provides much joy in our lives-we should never take that for granted. Rather . . . love, cherish and honor the Mother who provides so much for all of us.

On another subject, I wanted to personally share something that I recently experienced, involving the passing of one of my friends whom I’d known for forty years. Sometimes, during a session of mine, someone who has lost a loved one will quite literally yell at them for not taking care of themselves, and therefor allowing himself or herself to die before their time. Yes, people sometimes do get angry when a loved one passes. With my friend, I couldn’t believe how some folks sat in judgment of her decisions and actions that may indeed have contributed to her passing, but honestly who knows?

My friend’s soul of course knows her path but who else should be there to judge, or more accurately, condemn? As they say, “Those who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.” Or, to put it another way, “You can’t really understand another person’s experience until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.” Or, as Jesus himself said, “Let he who is without sin throw the first stone,” and “Judge not, lest you be judged!”

In any case, I must say it really threw me to witness all the anger and resentment because my friend was to me an amazing woman. One of the most independent and talented people you’d ever want to meet. Always up . . . maybe a bit too much for some folks, and yes, a Peter Pan aspect as well. But all in all, a good soul. She gave of herself to many, me included, sometimes with others to her detriment financially. However, the generosity she showed was rewarded at the end when so many people gave back to her when she got sick. When her time came, she didn’t burden anyone with her illness, said she was going to heaven, went to sleep, and passed peacefully.

It is so easy to sit in judgment of someone else’s life, decisions, or actions. We all do it now and again, whether we realize it or not, every time we say something like, “What in the world was he thinking?” But negative things happen in life, and like the old fashioned photographs, we develop from the negative.

Trust me, no deed or action or even thought goes unnoticed by Spirit. Of course it’s not easy for us to not be judgmental, myself included, but it’s important to try and minimize that tendency and especially to avoid condemnation of the person. Easier said than done but we should all try to be conscious of all walks of life, and to be caring even if it’s just with a smile.

And never forget that energy or Love does radiate and does make a difference. So, be as loving as you can.

On that note . . . think summer! Fun! And being free of whatever holds you back from having fun. Enjoy life in this glorious month of August. Remember God loves you when you work, but really loves you when you know how to play!

All in the Name of Love

July is here in all her glory! Of course July always starts out with bang, quite literally, with all the fireworks going on around most cities and towns in celebration of Independence Day. Hope your Fourth of July was great fun.

New York City, my home town, is known for its fantastic fireworks display over the East River, and the folks in charge really do a bang-up job (sorry, couldn’t resist).

As we know, fireworks are not just for the little ones. Adults also get to smile, laugh, ooooo and ahhhhh, while perhaps remembering memories of past Independence Days, and what those days now mean to them in retrospect.

And then of course for some, there is the specter of a person missing from this year’s festivities, a person who is now in Spirit, and perhaps missing for the first time. A little note about that my dear friends, it’s their bodies that are missing, for in Spirit they are still standing next to you.

Now let’s say that the “missing person” is your dad, uncle, or sibling who was in the military. The 4th could hold many different meanings, depending on that person’s experience, and your own related memories and reactions. Of course, if someone has been lost in war, the feelings of his or her surviving family members may vary, depending on their political perspectives and other factors.

I know that for many, “War is not the answer.” However, it is not my place to say what is right for any one person who is making life choices. What I do know is that, for all, there is a bigger picture and how that picture plays out helps define our paths. None of us can say what is or is not right for another. Whatever a person chooses as his or her path, then as far as I am concerned, so be it. There are issues we must all decide individually. In walking our paths, there will always be learning, sharing, and assessing what is right for each of us.

I have worked with past life regression expert Dr. Brian Weiss on many occasions, and military experiences come up very often during his subjects’ regressions. There is no doubt that a military experience — whatever the outcome — has had a very profound effect on many many lifetimes.

This season, I’ve been reading how so many veterans who suffer from wartime post-traumatic stress syndrome (PTS) don’t do well on July 4th with all the firework flares and explosions reminiscent of a war zone. One more thing to be mindful of as we celebrate the 4th, going forward. Love thy neighbor!

Speaking of Love — the one word that recurs the most in songs and poems, evoking an array of emotions resulting from separation, desire, wants, needs, etc. — have you ever noticed that you don’t hear many songs about hate? Love triumphs magnificently in that regard. The poets and songwriters all yearn to share their thoughts on Love. Not many speak of hate. Why? Because Love is the most important element of our existence.

As I’m sure you’ve heard, the Supreme Court of the United States (lately called SCOTUS) recently decided that couples of the same gender have a constitutional right to marry. So now, that is the law in all 50 states. Whatever your sexual preference, you can now share your love and marry openly. On this most recent Fourth of July, I was proud to celebrate that the country I live in has honored that Love includes the idea that two people of the same gender have the right to marry openly.

I recently saw a show on Broadway — It Shoulda Been You — starring Tyne Daly. She spoke at the end of the performance on the day that SCOTUS decided on the right of gay people to marry. Ms. Daly gave a deeply emotional speech noting that 49 years ago she had married Georg Stafford Brown, a black man. Their marriage was then a violation of law, and it wasn’t until years afterwards that their marriage was acknowledge to be legal. She noted that when the Supreme Court legalized gay marriage nationally, it was for her ‘an acknowledgement of love.’

She couldn’t have said it better.

I have never professed to be a biblical scholar, but from what I do know about the Bible, the greatest message that cuts through is that the Christ consciousness is about Love.

Fortunately, I have spent my entire adult life working and living what I have come to know without question — that Love continues even after death. All love matters, and we will not be judged and condemned according to whom we have shared our love while incarnated on the Earth plane.

John Lennon once lamented retrospectively that his “All You Need Is Love” was not wholly accurate, but for me, the message still rings true.

As always, it is my honor to do what I do in the name of Love.

Happy July!