How Hurricane Harvey, Lady Gaga, and Love Has Brought People Together

So . . . Are we feeling the “shortest” season fade away? No doubt that this summer was for many very challenging, especially for those impacted by Hurricane Harvey. Whether Harvey was a natural event as the mainstream media states, or a geoengineered event as some experts have found, our hearts and support go out to all those who ended this summer on such a tragic note – loss, loss, and more loss.

The Northeast had the coolest August in like, forever, but we’re not complaining here, since so many places are hurting and need all the love, positive thoughts, and whatever help we can send, in any way.

I personally know people in Houston, about whom I happily can say are okay. Others I know in Louisiana weren’t as lucky.

I’m still waiting for my friends and family on the West Coast to give an update of what is going on there, as I write this. A very difficult and painful time. How do we put it all back together?

Of course, our prayers go out in the hope that family members and friends made it out alive. But if not, we know that they were met by their loved ones on the Other Side. And, believe it or not, tragedies like this are always harder on the folks who survive.

When a tragedy like Harvey strikes, people band together. There are so many wonderful warm and giving folks who step up to the challenge. This moment was no exception.

I can’t tell you if it’s in the air or whatever, but . . . this is a very difficult time to live in. So many people with whom I have come in contact over the last several months have expressed just that.

My thoughts and words previously expressed in other newsletters and in my books, I shall repeat: In the BIG scheme of things, the one constant is Love. Hang on to Love, and it will help you through these very rough times.

Remember that our loved ones in spirit had their own conflicts and challenges while here, and they faced all that. For many, facing up to those challenges made them stronger. We can learn from that.

I am often told wonderful stories about grandparents, great grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc., who endured so much but kept going on. For many, it was the love of their family, and/or other loved ones, that helped them persist.

Things can be replaced. People cannot. So when our loved ones cross over, there is no need to try and replace them. They are there for us, on the Other Side. Connect with them through dreams, feelings, and intuition. As I indicate at my events, every soul gets out alive.

On another note, a quick sharing from one of my 2017 summer highlights. I saw Lady Gaga at Boston’s Fenway Park, the oldest major league baseball park in America. Needless to say, Lady Gaga filled Fenway. She is an amazing talent.

There were many moments that stuck me of her gift of giving every part of herself, but what I didn’t know initially was who “Joanna” was.

I had learned that Lady Gaga’s song to Joanna was a tribute, and when Lady Gaga opened up in song about who Joanna was, I could feel the connection. Joanna was her aunt, her dad’s sister who died when Lady Gaga was three years old. That event impacted her whole life since her father sort of smothered her (they are Italians) because he was so devastated by his sister’s loss. This somehow translated to fear of losing his daughter.

Lady Gaga’s story is one of many similar experiences reflecting how physical loss of a loved one can impact our lives. This was as true for her just it is true for so many of us who have walked a similar path.

However, what was wonderful to me was that Lady Gaga decided to, and did, share her experience with the audience, many of whom, I am sure, totally understood.

This is one thing an effective artist can do, but discussing the death of a loved one is not something many artists dare to share.

Kudos to you Lady Gaga! And as far as the music was concerned, I sat among so many wonderful people who had such a great time. We all did hoop and holler!

One gentleman near me was around 75 years old and wearing a red “Joanna Tour” tee-shirt from Cape Cod. Boy, was he a fan! He knew everything about Lady Gaga and it was he who told me who Joanna was before Lady Gaga shared her story on stage. And when she did share, it was at that moment she asked, “Can you feel all the love in this room?”

Yes! We did! A night I will always remember.

Enjoy the rest of what summer is left. Technically, Autumn doesn’t come until late September.

“All things come to an end,” they say, but never the one thing that is most important: Love.

As far as my Fall travels, I’ll be going to some new places and returning to favorites. I’ll be in Atlanta, Asheville, and Tarrytown this September, and California in October; specifically, Sacramento, LA, and San Diego.

Looking forward as always to seeing some of you for the first time, and others again.

Healing Through Nature

We are officially in Summer! The solstice was just a couple of weeks ago, on June 20th, the longest day of the year. The day when the northern pole of Earth points as close to the sun as it gets. Usually, this is the warmest time of the season, given the connection to the sun. A wonderful reason to celebrate!

And celebrate we will, with the weekend leading into the 4th of July being imminent!

All things that go with Summer – friends and families getting together, and of course remembering those loved ones with whom we have celebrated in the past but who are no longer here in the physical, but will be here in spirit – are upon us.

I’ve learned over the years that many families plan on using this time of the year to get together when other times of the year are not possible. For one thing, you can travel by car without worry of “bad” weather . . . well at least not snow!

For example, the family of a friend of mine is having a family reunion in upstate New York, where the centerpiece will be the casting of a deceased loved one’s ashes on a spot in Nature that he loved so much. While it is true that, as Jim Morrison once sang, that “Nobody here gets out alive,” it is also true that every spirit/soul does get out alive – for spirits we are, having a human experience.

Yes, it is that time of year when the weather just invites us to be outside. Speaking of which – I just came across an article about “forest bathing,” which generally speaking involves a walk in the woods to shed worldly woes, and combat stress. It’s a custom in Korea and Japan. Suffice it to say that the benefits are huge. In fact, if you can believe it, the benefits are so well established that forest bathing is covered under medical insurance in many countries (outside the U.S., where citizen health is not considered a human right).

Many of us know from experience that spending time in a forest or other forms of Nature, can not only lower stress, but also reduce pulse rate and blood pressure, which naturally improves the functioning of the nervous system, and the body overall.

One Stanford University study had participants do a memory test before and after either a Nature walk or a walk in an urban area. Those who walked in Nature improved their performance on the second memory test, while the urban walkers showed no improvement.

The same test also tended to demonstrate improved vitality after a walk in Nature. It was not the exercise so much as the actual communing with Nature.

A walk in the woods can also reduce negative thoughts. After all, how can one stroll through the woods, look at all those beautiful green trees and flowing streams, listen to birds and see the butterflies, without feeling anything but uplifted.

If you can’t make it to the country sometime soon, note this: those same studies showed that people who live in urban areas where there are parks and greenery (e.g., Central Park in Manhattan) had less mental stress and illness.

No surprise then that whenever I do conferences, the best events – in terms of actual results – are those that include a walk in Nature, and/or activities away from the city. Yes, it’s good to get away from the maddening crowd, and let the signs in Nature help us connect with loved ones on the Other Side.

Interacting with Nature also helps us connect with our DPs (dead persons) via dreams, walks, and the opening of our minds and hearts.

Simply stated, the connection with Nature is more easily facilitated during the Summer. For Summer is that time to think like kids again, put a skip in your step, and, hopefully see, feel, or sense your loved ones in spirit walking by your side.

If a departed loved one enjoyed fishing, and there is a river, lake, or pond nearby, go there! You will be reminded of those times with your DP, which will facilitate your connection to him or her in Spirit. If your DP gardened, find a garden and walk by basking in the sun, while looking at all those colors and opening your heart. There are gardens everywhere, and I mean everywhere. Yes, even in the cities where city folks have rooftop gardens, or plots in the outer boroughs (like Brooklyn or Queens).

If you live near the ocean, and don’t usually go there, a gentle shame on you! Get into it! You are missing a lot, especially at sunrise or sunset.

I promise all of you who are feeling below par that getting into Nature will make whatever is hurting deep inside or making you feel lost, get better. Simply just breathing in all that is beautiful will be of benefit. This is what is truly important, and free!

Yes free! Nature is everywhere, and everywhere is where our departed loved ones exist. If there is a cost to get to a Nature spot that beckons you, spend the bucks. It will be worth it.

Speaking of traveling (which I so often do), I’ll be in Colorado in August. I intend to take a hike in the Rocky Mountains. A Colorado mountain high! Those mountains surely beckon me.

Also looking forward to seeing all you Massachusetts folks on 13th of July, with my event with Thomas John.

In sum, don’t let the Summer pass you by. Come out of the doldrums (if that’s where you are) and just have fun. You’ll enjoy, I promise.

Love Connects Us All!

It’s June! For many, a time to enjoy, directly or through others, a happy graduation! Time also to attend the prom! And, of course, celebrate “Father’s Day!”

For those of you remembering your father, or father figure, who has crossed over, celebrate in a way that makes sense to you and will resonate with him on the Other Side. Send a thought, light a candle, share a memory, raise a glass, and/or do whatever he might like to see you doing – and be as happy as you can. He will appreciate seeing you in a joyful mood.

Ah yes, June! Especially during this month, with Summer on the way, it’s fun, sweet, and so nice to see young people graduating, and attending proms. Nowadays things are a bit more unique, as two girls and/or two boys go to the prom together, as a couple!

Ah, young love, basking today in a moment that someday will be a wonderful memory.

Lately, I can’t help but notice so many young people experiencing what prior generations have experienced – losing friends so young. In the past, much of this tragedy had to do with war, and drugs. And now, for some, that is still the case. So sad that even with the progress we’ve made technologically, there are still cycles of tragedy and sadness that prevail in certain quarters. Very sorry about that.

Yet, there are others who are becoming involved with causes and dedications, and doing what they feel is deeply important, be it anti-war, pro-clean air, and/or or pro- human rights, etc. It is the young who will inherit the future, so let it be that they involve themselves, for they will take the reins eventually. I, for one, send them my blessings.

Remember that wherever we find ourselves now, metaphysically speaking, our souls chose to be here, present in this time in history, following the paths our souls – AKA, our higher selves – have chosen. Wherever we are, it is up to each individual to step up and face the soul’s chosen journey. Not an easy task. Planet Earth is a tough learning school. But it’s all about taking responsibility.

Yes, so many young people doing amazing things. And, of course, ultimately, it’s all about Love, which hopefully can be a light for those wandering through a dark tunnel.

On another note, for you lovers of the animal kingdom, here is a story taken from an article written by Laura Goldman, published in Care2Causes in April, 2017. (Original article published here.)

For 20 of the 21 years she’d been in captivity at SeaWorld San Diego, a polar bear named Szenja shared her enclosure with her best friend, another female bear named Snowflake.

After losing her appetite and energy, Szenja died “unexpectedly” on April 18, according to SeaWorld officials. But based on what had recently happened to Szenja, her death should hardly be considered “unexpected.”

[Previously] In late February, SeaWorld [had] transferred Snowflake to the Pittsburgh Zoo & PPG Aquarium in an effort to be bred. Many people urged Sea World not to separate the best friends. You just can’t separate best friends after a 20-year friendship.

Yes, animals and humans can, and do, die of a broken heart.

Another example of how relationships matter so very much, even in the animal kingdom. Let us not forget that we humans are animals, and that life can and does often change on a dime.

One thing that will never change is Love. And those memories that Love can inspire. No one can take those memories from you, no one. They are filed away in your heart, mind, and soul forever.

So much is going on for me lately, I can’t describe it all here, at this moment. Very much looking forward to seeing many of you at the Afterlife Conference in Portland. After that, I’ll be jetting to NJ, Baltimore, and Rochester. Very excited indeed.

Oh, and yes, don’t forget to smell the flowers! It’s June, after all.

Honoring Mother’s Day, Spring, and the Grieving Process

Oh my my! My favorite month has just arrived, the merry month of May! Where we find that April showers do indeed bring May flowers.

In case you missed it, I did my spring video showing off my beautiful fuschias! Here it is.

There is always so much to see in the beginning of May. Not only the fuschias but of course my other favorite, the daffodils, both yellow by the way, such a joyful color.

Yes, the season begins! To me, the beginning of May marks the real beginning of Spring, a time when many of us want to break out in song, because we feel a little lighter as the cold weather becomes a thing of the past.

However, for those who have recently experienced the loss of a loved one, even the Spring flowers blooming, and green leaves returning, may go relatively unnoticed, or have little impact. When we lose someone, everything else can become secondary, as we grieve.

Although there is no formal manual for processing grief, I can offer a few tips. First of all, the process is totally individual, and thus varies from person to person.

If you’ve lost your mom recently, Mother’s Day – this year arriving late on Sunday, May 14th – may be particularly difficult. Even if your mom passed years ago, Mother’s Day may still be a sad day for you.

But keep in mind that grief will lessen over time, especially if you’ve had a visit from, or connection with, your deceased mom (or another deceased loved one who comes to mind on Mother’s Day). After making that connection, you might even be able to smile on Mother’s Day, especially if your loved one is near.

Pay attention! A visit from your mom on the Other Side may be more likely to occur on Mother’s Day than on a routine day of the year. If the connection occurs, it will make the loss so much easier to handle because you will very well realize that death is not the end. The spiritual self, our true essence, continues after physical death, as does our eternal Love for one another which keeps the connection intact.

Again, remember that everyone is different. If you feel you want to be alone on Mother’s Day to take a walk or a hike, read a book, or go to the movies – do so! In contrast, some folks like to play bingo! Whatever works! It’s all just fine. There are no hard and fast rules.

However, being flexible might help, just in case your sad mood suddenly changes for the better – perhaps because your mom was close to you even if the visit didn’t register consciously – so you can decide at the last minute that instead of being alone, you’d rather go out to dinner or do whatever with a friend, partner, or family member who just happens to be around.

Another suggestion I’d like to offer is this: On Mother’s Day, if the opportunity presents itself, give a toast (outwardly or inwardly) to your mom or other loved one who has passed, or light a candle (not necessarily in church). The same applies if it’s their birthday, or day of passing, or some other day or holiday that was/is still special to them.

You know more than anyone else about the Love you had, and still have, for the person who has passed. Sometimes that Love is manifested through focusing on special memories of the person, like when you laughed so hard together till you cried, or still cry when you look at their picture, taken perhaps during one of those trips you went on together and will never forget.

In short, trust yourself and honor your feelings with regard to the passing of your mother, mother figure, or anyone else. Allow yourself to be any way you want to be on Mother’s Day, and/or any other day. Be sad, be happy, be thoughtful or even angry. Walk your life without judgment if you can, and know that your departed loved ones are just a thought away, smiling at you and thanking you for all the good you did for them.

Looking forward to seeing all you New Jersey, Baltimore, Rochester, and Afterlife Conference folks in Portland soon!

Spring Holidays and Traditions

Welcome to April! Having just passed the Vernal Equinox, which arrived officially on March 22nd, we are now in Aries. The rites of Spring and new beginnings are upon us! Let’s enjoy!

Aries is the beginning of the Zodiac. Indeed, most of you Aries folks are aware of this, but for those not in the know, it’s a good time to check with your favorite astrologer and ask them to bring you up to speed on what the stars say is about to happen in your life.

This year, April features the holy days of Passover and Easter, which are so very popular here in the US. These religious holidays are reflections of Spring – and symbolize joy, re-birth and new beginnings.

Interestingly, Passover is celebrated at home whereas Easter is primarily honored at church (although, of course, Easter dinners are quite popular). While Easter begins at sunrise and Passover starts at sundown, both events feature family gatherings and traditions. For children, there can be the fun of an Easter egg hunt, or getting to see and maybe sit next to Grandma and Grandpa at the Passover Seder.

Interesting too that Jesus’ Last Supper is often thought of as a Passover Seder meal (although there is some disagreement about this among religious scholars). In any event, Leonardo Di Vinci’s great artwork, “The Last Supper,” continues to remind us that Jesus was a Jew who observed Passover.

Speaking of great art, if you have never experienced listening to the magnificent “Saint John Passion” or the “Saint Matthew Passion,” both composed by Bach, give it a try. Both are moving, inspiring, and beautiful works of music that can elevate your spirit.

Speaking of which, the story of Jesus’ resurrection on the first Easter Sunday not only elevates the spirits of Christians, but symbolizes for all of us that there is life after death. This interpretation reflects the reality of my work, which is to help you maintain your continued connections to your loved ones who have crossed over to the Other Side.

Easter is also a reminder that by listening, praying, meditating, and keeping our minds and hearts open, we can communicate with our loved ones who have crossed over. For we are all spirits having a human experience on Planet Earth. While our bodies may eventually turn to dust, the true essence of what we are, like Love, does not die.

But getting back to Earth for a moment, I would suggest that you take advantage of this wonderful time in April. If you have any little ones, you know that they love painting eggs, and participating in egg hunts. Even at the White House, people are participating in “Easter Egg Rolls.” For my Jewish friends, make sure you attend that traditional Seder. If Grandma or Grandpa or any other loved one has crossed over, think of them while your are at the table, and perhaps say their names out loud if you feel that would be appropriate. At the very least, honor their memory in your heart. They will hear you. Chances are, they will be very close by. Our DPs love to come around on holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and other special occasions.

Given the state of world affairs, there are many countries where the population is unable to celebrate their religious holidays the way most of us are able to do here. I would suggest that you send those folks some Love, for we are all connected no matter what our religious beliefs may be.

And finally, let us all be grateful for what we do have – which is something we should do everyday, but especially at this time of the year, as we begin a new cycle.

Looking forward to all my visit to your town, some new but many once again. To name a few: Chicago, Minneapolis, Baltimore, Rochester and New Jersey.

Happy Spring!

Spring is Just Around the Corner!

Yay! Spring is just around the corner. The vernal equinox is due to arrive on March 20th, just three days after we get to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day. And celebrate we will!

So excited that Spring is on the way!

Spring of course means different things to different people, but one thing is for sure – we all feel in one way or another that Spring is a time of re-birth and new beginnings. A time that can put a smile on your face and a skip in your step, as Nature begins to turn a rich and luscious green. Also a time to wipe away those tears if you’ve endured the loss of a loved one over the winter, or during this past year.

After one of my recent events, a woman to whom I had delivered a message came up to me. It was clear that she needed a hug. No questions needed to be asked, nor statements made. As the tears rolled down her cheeks, she shared how this had been a very hard year for her. She lost not only her dad, but a dear friend, and her nephew as well. Her sister and daughter had attended the event with her and it was a very intense experience for all of them.

Interestingly, I find it not uncommon for families to suffer several losses in a row. When someone is just trying to deal with a passing, there is soon another one right after, or as was in this family’s case, three within a year.

The woman told me that her son was having a very hard time adjusting to his cousin’s passing in particular, and was pulling away from the family. She and I talked about it and how this was when the family needed to be there for him. Hugs would be good medicine.

One thing was for sure, the young man is very sensitive. And if there is one thing I can share that is critically important, it is that boys who are very sensitive have it much harder in this world, there being a certain macho expectancy of young men in our society.

Fortunately for this young man, his mother gets it, and has been very much there for him in letting him know how important family is. He recognizes their love for him and that they are there to help him through. Interestingly enough, the young man is also very close to his aunt, the mother of his deceased cousin. So, he is blessed to have not only a loving mom but also a very caring aunt and others to help him process his grief.

I have no doubt that after these three passings, the family will very much be looking forward to Spring and all its beauty. Fortunately, they live in a part of the country where Spring in always a joyous welcoming.

In the U.S., the overall population doesn’t deal very well with physical death, which is a reaction that is very different from so many other cultures I’ve encountered around the world.

None of the feelings of grief after losing a loved one come with a manual, and we all need to deal with and process grief in our own way. But dealing with death is part of the journey we all signed up for. Fortunately, I have been honored to be able to make things easier for so many by connecting those still here with their loved ones in Spirit, and sharing precious moments.

With Spring on her way, and anticipating those feelings of new birth, I am reminded that our loved ones want us more than anything to value our lives, and be happy. Of course there will be ups and downs, bitter and sweet moments, but it is all about the cycle of life. Our DPs want to remind us that they are literally there in Spirit when we take our walks, look at their photos, or just flash on a memory, maybe like the time we laughed so hard that we peed our pants. Most importantly, they want us to continue to feel the love we still share with them. It is all of these little things that are really SO BIG – fond memories and continuing enjoyment that no one can ever take away.

Recently, I was interviewed by a doctor who had been woken up during the night by her house lights flashing. She was sure it was her mom, who has crossed over, telling her to visit her niece who was in the hospital with terminal cancer. Although the doctor knew that her mother wanted her to go see her niece, she had second “logical” thoughts, and considered discussing the situation with others. Fortunately, she decided against consulting with anyone, feeling she would have been talked out of making the trip to the hospital. Instead, she followed her first impression – first impressions usually being a very reliable indicator when receiving messages from beyond.

The doctor went to the hospital and learned that her niece hadn’t eaten in a week, and that the staff felt she was on death’s door. Upon seeing her aunt arrive, the niece sat up in the bed, and ordered a mega meal for both of them. They ate, laughed, and joyously shared their bond of love. Later the aunt told me over and over that she was so glad she trusted the message she knew was coming from her mom on the Other Side.

And that my friends, is a memory the good doctor will treasure forever. It also serves as a reminder to listen to those messages that ring so true. If you’ve never done so, give it a try this Spring. And, of course, appreciate the blooming flowers, and watch how Mother Earth works her magic, and creates such awesome beauty. If you have the will and opportunity, plant those seeds of whatever it is you want to have grow. Take care of your project, and enjoy a most wonderful mystery of Nature.

Let me end by saying that I’ve got so many wonderful events coming up, from the West Coast, to the Midwest, to the East Coast. Please check my website for details. Looking forward to seeing all of you, be it for the first time, the tenth time, or whatever.

Love, Faith, and Lessons of the Soul

Happy Month of Love!

If you live in parts of the country where the weather is cold, you will welcome all the warmth of love coming your way in February! For, we know it’s all about Love, Love, Love, as recited so poetically by Lin-Manuel Miranda who was the winner of eleven Tony Awards for “Hamilton” (I still can’t get a ticket), and of the 2016 Pulitzer Prize. He also has two Oscar nominations for Best Animated Picture and Best Song for “How Far I’ll Go.” To be honest, for me it couldn’t be better said. He is a very “in-tune” man who has expressed the message of “Love, Love, Love,” over and over again, throughout all his work.

For most of my adult life, I have repeatedly heard from loved ones in spirit, as well as from those still here in the physical, how much Love means. The deep intense feeling we experience when we suffer the loss of someone close to us, and how their passing impacts our lives, has to do with the fact that we loved that person.

I realize that we all have to sometimes work hard to keep the faith through Love, and make it replace fear. Not always easy, but necessary for one’s soul growth.

Many of you have written to me about the current state of affairs on a spiritual basis. Firstly, I’m with Lin-Manuel, Love, Love, Love. It couldn’t be more important in these moments of tension and fear to keep Love as a focus. Again, I know how difficult that may be, but I am and will always be a firm believer that Love will always win out in the long run. We may not always see the results we desire, but please believe me, Love is what God, spirit, and soul learning is all about.

Most of you know by know now that I honor and have the greatest respect for Mother Earth. She who feeds us, shelters us, and offers escape via trails to follow; oceans, rivers, and lakes in which to swim; mountains to climb, etc., etc. In sum, it is Mother Earth who allows us to exist. She has a whole world to take care of, and she does it, tirelessly tending for us. Mother Earth is the ultimate nurturer and the example for women to follow as caretakers.

Men too! I have as well in my work experienced many wonderful men who take care of their loved ones – children, wives, mothers, sisters, etc. That is what nurturers do – lend a helping hand, especially during those overwhelming moments.

For Mother Earth, taking care of the land and the waters that support us, is a full-time job. I have for a long time known that trees communicate with each other and like us, have families and communities. Indeed, a well-known scientist studied trees in Nature for a twenty-five year period and learned that the trees actually communicate with each other underground. For example, if a certain type of tree needs a particular nutrient or more sun, the other trees will adjust to make it happen.

So, in response to those emails about fear of what may be coming, whatever it is, let me remind you of my book Everything Happens for a Reason. Love, free will, and lessons of the soul are paramount.

Through our love as nurturers, remember, Mother Earth needs us to do everything we can to help share her burden. Recycling is just but one small example. Each of us needs to do our part to make the world inhabitable for our children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, etc. who will inherit the Earth when we transition to the Other Side.

With regard to free will, remember, God helps those who help themselves. We have the free will to do the little things that are the big things that make a difference. This can be as simple and taking cloth bags to the market and not using plastic bags. In some cities, plastic bags come with a price (a hotly debated issue in NYC right now), which is a disincentive to using them. When I worked in Denmark, there were NO bags in the stores, period! The oceans will be very happy if less plastic ends up there.

Lessons of the soul. We don’t die, we continue. More precisely, although nobody here gets out alive, every soul does. And the love in our souls continues after we leave the body.

Still, our bodies are important in our souls’ purpose and for learning. And Earth – a tough but wonderful school – is the stage upon which are bodies perform.

Take care of Mother Earth, and she will better take care of you, now and perhaps in a future lifetime.

As we start the New Year. I look forward to connecting in Love on the journey in which we really are all connected. I’m doing many new events this year in places I haven’t done for awhile, to name a few: Somerset, New Jersey, Baltimore, Rochester, Minneapolis, Chicago, Seattle, and Portland, while returning to many others I love. Visit my calendar for a complete schedule.

Happy Valentines Day, my friends!

Welcome to 2017 (A “1” Year Numerologically)!

Happy New Year! Welcome to 2017!

In numerology, 2017 is a “1” year, and representative of the beginning of a new 9-year cycle. 2016, of course, was a “9” year, and the end of the previous cycle.

The way we calculate this is to break down each year to a single digit, by adding all the numbers of the year together. For example: for 2017, 2 + 0 + 1 + 7 = 10 and 1 + 0 = 1. For 2016, 2 + 0 + 1 + 6 = 9.

Take note that this calculation is for the universal year. For your own personal year, add your birth date (day and month) to number 1. For example, if you were born on February 13, i.e., 2/13, you would add 2 + 1 + 3 = 6 + 1 (for 2017) and get “7” as your personal year. My focus in this article will be on the universal cycle.

The start of a new 9-year cycle triggers creativity, learning and growth. It’s truly a time to “plant seeds,” and seek what your heart desires in all areas of your life – career, relationships, money, spirituality, etc. Whatever moves you. 2017, being a “1” year, sets the foundation for the next 9-years.

In numerology, the intentions and foundations you establish during 2017 (preferably early in 2017), can mold the field of potentiality, and set the tone and flow of energy within your life over the forthcoming 9-year cycle.

As you leave the previous 9-year cycle ending in 2016, it’s important to review what did or did not happen during that time frame. And ask yourself, why or why not?

Everything in life has a rhyme and a reason. So while reflecting back over this last cycle, see if you can discover the reasons why certain events occurred. Think about what you might have started in motion at the beginning of the cycle which began in 2008, a tumultuous year for many. Ask, “Where did my efforts lead, and where am I now?” Focus on what was or became important during the 9-year cycle now ending. If you are dissatisfied with where you are now, consider how you may be able to change things going forward.

I’m sure that many of you remember 2008, a year that sent so many of us spiraling into an economic tailspin. Reflect whether and how your life was impacted during that time. See if there are options available now to change things regarding relationships, career, finances, etc. 2017 is a time to dig deep, observe, reflect, and break through if necessary.

Looking back on 2008, I vividly remember so many questions being asked of me at my events regarding our country’s (and the world’s) state of affairs – mostly financial, since so many people lost their homes, their jobs, and their retirement savings. For all of you who went through that, and may still be suffering as a result, I am truly very sorry. It was the worst financial crisis since the Great Depression of the 1930s. Many people were hurt.

In 2008, when so many people asked me, “What the h*** is going on?” I felt compelled to share that it is always important to focus on what’s truly important to YOU! Despite the economic difficulties around the country and the globe, ask yourself: “How is my health? How are my kids, spouse, old friends, home, etc.? How can I make things better?” In times of crisis, it’s important to put all of that into perspective. And keep in mind, that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. We’re here to grow spiritually. And crises such as occurred in 2008 can create enormous opportunities for spiritual growth as we stand up to the daunting challenges that may still be impacting us today.

In my experience, those who have hope and faith, and trust that everything will somehow be okay although not the same, have a better chance at navigating through a crisis. I believe that you can, to an extent, create your own reality, especially on a psychological level. How we react to things that occur on this physical plane is crucial. Keep in mind that it’s all part of the human experience which we signed up for, knowing the risks involved, and recognizing that at the end of the journey, our souls will rise above it all.

I’m sure many of you reading this newsletter felt pain during the last 9-year cycle. Kudos to all of you who kept the faith even with so many obstacles in your path. And for those who did not, come on home!

Remember that so much of your own life is in your own hands, and you can control how to react to earthly developments. Better to deal with the cards that are dealt. Turn those lemons into lemonade.

Many people, I know, were paralyzed by fear in 2008. But fear can and will pass. Face it, and stare it down, remembering that challenging times are a good time to teach your children the value of not being able to always get what you want. Often, it’s more important to learn how to reinvent yourself, even if your standard of living is severely impacted.

I was in Staples the other day and the checkout woman spontaneously started telling me that she couldn’t believe how fast time flew, and that last December she had promised herself that she was going to start saving money, but that she wasn’t able to do so then, or even in July or September. Stuff happens! Nevertheless, she expressed that her kids had cars, and that “We’re doing ok.”

She was speaking her thoughts out loud to me, a stranger, for some reason, probably sensing that I might be able to provide some guidance. She said that she believed that she should now start saving. I look at her and said, “You’ll be very happy if you save. You know the expression, ‘Save for a rainy day.’ That’s why we save! There will always be rainy days.”

If you didn’t learn that in 2008, learn it now. It’s nine years later. Ask yourself, have you been able to save? If not, why not? Are you now doing what you want? If not, why not? How can you make things better?

More importantly, has someone important gone from your life? If yes, this may be the time to reinvent yourself, and remember that our departed loved ones stick around and help us as much as they can.

For all those who have lost a loved one dear to them in 2016, please remember to put everything in the right perspective. The first year is the hardest – the first Thanksgiving without a loved one, the first Christmas, the first New Year, etc. Remember that grief is a process, and be positive about the fact that the grief will pass.

Remember while reflecting back on the previous nine years, whom we love, and who loves us. Who was there when we needed a hug, a laugh, or a smile, or words of comfort letting us know that it’s going to be all right. Something I’m very sure many of us have experienced in some way or another over the past nine years.

I recall the Suzy Orman line, “People first, money second,” or the simple quote from Ellen DeGeneres, “Be kind to one another.”

So, in sum, I would suggest, that if you take the time to review in 2017 the last 9-year cycle, you may be amazed, enlightened and/or even amused, at all that has passed, and the good that was there despite all the difficulties – difficulties that were overcome, or that can be overcome, if they still exist.

My dear friend Bill Attride, who is a fine astrologer, will be on my Blog Talk Radio show on January 9th to discuss 2017. If you have the time and are so inclined, give a listen, and maybe call in, to learn what’s likely to manifest in the nine years ahead.

As always, I look forward to seeing so many of you in 2017, a new “1” year. I’ll be traveling to some new places, and reconnecting with those in established venues as we meet once again. Check my website for details.

In closing, let me say that during these past nine years, I have been blessed to meet so many wonderful kind and giving folks along the way. It wasn’t always easy, especially in 2008, but I thank you all for joining me on this journey which continues as we begin a new 9-year cycle.

Tolerance, Gratitude, and What’s Really Important

Welcome to December 2016, the last month of the year!

Last month, we celebrated Thanksgiving, hopefully along with those in our lives whom we love and care for. Soon it will be time for Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Mawlid, and other special December events. Of course, this doesn’t mean we have to share the same beliefs with those who are present at the dinner table, but we should at least respect, and especially not ridicule, those relatives and friends who follow a different religion or spiritual path.

I have many friends in education, especially in NYC, “where the world lives,” (or so they say), who often share that a key issue encountered with their students is that the kids often disagree with one another, and get passionate about their beliefs. Good educators teach that there is no good reason to mock another’s belief system. Instead, effective educators teach kids to be kind to one another.

Naturally, learning begins at home. I truly admire parents who teach their children how to behave properly. I recently read an article by a mother who has two daughters – one is Chinese, and the other is a lesbian. The mother came from parents who taught her the importance of tolerance and respect for others. She was recently concerned that the differences between her children could cause problems. She nonetheless felt gratitude for being afforded the opportunity to live her life in this country. She is first generation and her parents instilled in her this gratitude.

For example, speaking up for someone who is weak and has been dissed by another is a kind and courageous thing to do. And I’m sure that I don’t have to remind you how bullying is a major problem. Standing up to bullies is not easy, but it can and should be done. Less difficult would be the simple act of thanking someone for holding open a door, which will elevate your and his or her spirits. Or helping an elderly person with those packages that she can hardly handle, given her struggles with the walker. This is what our end-of-the-year holidays are a reminder of – being kind.

I’m sure also that most of you realize how important it is to give at this time of the year, especially to those who are likely to receive little or nothing, unless you contribute. We all know how hard it is for children who are of lesser means to see other relatively “rich” children get so many more toys than they seem to need. See what you can do about that by helping a poor child in your neighborhood, and/or by contributing to a worthwhile charity that cares for children.

Also, think back. Do you really remember all the toys you got as a kid? Were those toys more important to you in the long run than the thoughts behind them? Do you agree that, as Maya Angelou once said, “I may not remember exactly what someone said, but I remember how they made me feel”?

We are all here together. We are not isolated. Every smile, action, and even thoughts can create a positive change in those with whom we interact.

Would each of us not give away all those lovely presents we have received over the years, to spend just one more holiday moment interacting here in the physical with a loved one who has already transitioned? To experience one more opportunity to feel their presence, hear them laugh, or even argue – just to be close again? Well, cheer up! Your departed loved ones ARE around you, especially at this time of the year. Open your hearts, relax, believe, and feel their presence. A toast of wine to them would also help.

This is what December is all about – a reminder of the things that are truly important – those moments of loving, connecting, and sharing happy memories that are ours forever. Treasure these moments – no one can take them away from you.

Everywhere I go in my line of work, so many faces I encounter, no matter where, over and over again, reveal a sense of loss of missing that special person who has crossed over. But please do remember this: those who have made their transition are in a better place.

Earth is a learning school. We are spirits having a human experience. When the experience is over here, we shed our costumes (bodies) and ascend to our natural spiritual state. What matters most is that we know in our hearts that regardless of how difficult it is to endure physical endings, Love goes on in the Spiritual, and that we will all be reunited with our loved ones eventually.

Our loved ones want us to know that, and to not lose sight of this perspective. They are doing fine. So enjoy life while you can, and as much as you can!

Remember, there is always something to be grateful for, even after Thanksgiving has passed. And although the loss of a loved one can be most difficult, we need to face the difficult fact that we can’t change what has occurred.

However, even if you are a skeptic, you can change your beliefs and thoughts to realize that Love goes on even after physical death. Once you recognize this reality, and feel it in your heart, you will join those of us who know beyond a shadow of a doubt that while the passing of a loved one is often very difficult to endure, and that the grief must be processed, we can deal with such a loss knowing that we will be reunited with our beloved DPs (dead persons) in the future. And meanwhile, they are here watching over us. Rest assured.

On another note . . . I’m often asked about the little things we can do, to help us and others enjoy the holiday season. Here are my suggestions:

  1. Hug those you love and those who need love. Thank them for being in your life.
  2. Make a list of those for whom you want to shop, and/or those you want to touch, during this season of kindness and Love. Remember that shopping for others need not involve elaborate gifts. Effective shopping can be for food that folks need, or for plants to cheer them up.
  3. Send out cards, with candle lighting announcements, to those you know will be touched by your efforts.
  4. Purchase and give candles to your family and friends to burn throughout the months, to remind them, if they are among those who need to be reminded, that Love is immortal. Let them celebrate the lives of those who we know are with us in the spiritual, even if we can’t see them.
  5. Prepare and mail out cards (or texts, or emails) to those who lost someone recently, and are in a state of grieving, while acknowledging their profound grief. Include a personal message, if you have something gentle and positive to say.
  6. Decorate your living space in a way that makes people smile when they enter. And if it suits you, make your home smell of nature, preferably with a plant still growing in the earth, instead of one that has been chopped down and separated from the earth.
  7. Redecorate your living space in honor of those DPs you love, if they loved decorating while here in the physical.
  8. Plan and carry out random acts of kindness – most importantly, in ways that your dear departed loved ones would most appreciate and admire.
  9. Call, or visit, those that you feel a connection to, and/or who may be lonely.
  10. Know always in your heart that your departed loved ones hear you and laugh with you in joy as you think positively of them during the holiday season.

Enjoy December! It’s one of the most special months of the year. Reflect on all the events, connections, and gifts of gratitude you have received in 2016. And be thankful.

And with regard to those experiences that were difficult, remember . . . we are like old-fashioned photographs, in that we develop from the negative.

True love is forever. From my heart to yours.

Signs, Connections, and Gratitude

Welcome to the month of giving Thanks!

There is not a day that goes by that I’m not thankful for our ability to connect to the spirit and energy, of Love.

Amazing too is how by just listening to your inner voice, or acting on a hunch or a feeling, we can open our hearts and minds to infinite possibilities. Let me share just one of those kinds of happenings, involving a person I had never met.

I was doing a radio event recently (a relatively rare occurrence nowadays, sadly, given the dynamics of the radio industry), in front of a live audience. Just before I am about to go on, the radio person who sponsored me for the event says that there is a guy in the audience who wasn’t sure but thought I might be dead! Yeah, that’s right. He came to this conclusion because he recently “saw” me with his deceased mom, while he was in the cemetery, and I was in my forties.

Well, this is what I call loaded material, scripted before I even walked out on the stage. I’m of course aware of the difference between receiving messages and interpreting them, so I knew that I had to be on my toes.

I walk out on stage, and, alluding to the story about the guy who said I was dead, I tell everyone that I’m quite sure I’m still alive and well. The guy who said I was dead steps up and sweetly and graciously proceeds to tell me that he took his mother to see me many years ago and that she had just died a month ago. He said that when he was visiting his mom’s grave, I popped into his head. From this, he had drawn the conclusion that I was deceased. He decided to Google me and found out that, on the very next day, I was going to be appearing just down the road from where he lives! I guess he should have realized at that point that I wasn’t dead, but sometimes, logic does not prevail.

It was pretty clear to me that his momma was connecting to him in the graveyard and getting him to come see me, although in a very roundabout way, which is often the case with messages from beyond. I have to say that this was, in some ways, very very funny, and yes, his momma did show up at the event with lots of other family members. And of course there were messages that came through me for him, and were very helpful.

Kids, you can’t make this stuff up! And right before Halloween! I guess that the veil between the two worlds was really rocking!

Now, with Halloween behind us, we are in the month of Thanksgiving. A difficult time for those who have had family members who were with them last year at this time, but who have crossed over in the interim, and will not be at the dinner table this Thanksgiving.

It’s during this time of year when that feeling of being alone can really hit hard – the first year after the loss of a loved one being the hardest, as I have so often said. Those who have lost someone near and dear during this past year may tend to feel especially despondent and isolated because that special someone isn’t around this Thanksgiving. But what we must always remember is that they ARE around, just not in the physical. Trust me, they are near you. Watch for those little signs. Trust our sixth sense and see how you recently departed loved one is making herself or himself known. Like I said before, listening to your inner voice, or acting on a hunch or a feeling, can open our hearts and minds to infinite possibilities.

I know it’s not easy, especially when your heart is broken. But take control. Open your hearts and minds and realize that your loved one is in a better place-a place we all are destined to ascend to eventually. Focus on this aspect of reality, recognize the Truth, and you will be able to heal your broken heart.

Now I realize that this is all easier said than done. Heartache is a deep emotion we all have to deal with sooner or later, and with the holidays coming, starting with Thanksgiving, even more so. That is why I most strongly suggest that you open up your hearts and minds, and recognize that, eventually, every soul must leave her or his body, and travel home.

Take time also to focus on others who are so much more in need. Perhaps you can become one of those wonderful volunteers who deliver food to the needy – or at least donate to that cause. But what may be even more important than food for those so down on their luck, believe it or not, is having a kind face acknowledge their presence, and wish them a happy holiday. Even better, if you can manage it, give that person in need a hug. We ALL need nurturing; no man or woman is an island.

And don’t forget your partner, or significant other, or friend, or wife or husband, whatever the term of the one you are closest with. Remember, family does NOT always mean blood. Connection is about Love, and we get it from so many different places.

So, if you are fortunate enough this year to be with all the family members who were around you last year, keep in mind those who have lost someone. Consider reaching out, and connecting with that person. The look in their eyes as you recognize their situation will be priceless.

And if you get a message about me while visiting the cemetery, like the guy on the radio show did, let me know!

And thinking of hope and thanks, I’ll be returning once again to Roanoke for Hope for the Holidays, with a stop off to ARE (Edgar Cayce’s Foundation) in Virginia Beach.

Warmly,
Suzane

P.S. Another suggestion . . . consider forgetting about your diet this Thanksgiving. I’m not saying overdo it, but, it is time to soak in all the festivities, so let yourself go, just a little.