Suggestions for Brightening the Holidays, Even Through Grief

We come again to the end of another year, and another Christmas Holiday awaits us. For many, this is a very wonderful time, while for others the holiday brings up sad memories of our loved ones who are no longer with us in the physical, especially if they have made their transition recently. I know how difficult this can be because missing our loved ones totally changes how we feel and what we do – during the Christmas season especially. Sometimes it seems like we have a hole in our heart. But do the best you can and remember that our beloved DPs are watching over us and want nothing more than for us to be happy. Often being happy is much easier said than done, most certainly if you are still working your way thru the grieving process. However, throughout the years I’ve discussed with others how they manage to celebrate the Christmas holiday when someone they love so much is no longer here in the physical. I’ve gotten a lot of good suggestions. Here’s a list of my favorites:

  1. Hug those you love and those who need love. Thank them for being in your life.
  2. Make a list of whom to shop for, and/or those you want to reach out and touch, during this season of love.
  3. Send out cards, with candle lighting announcements to those you want to reach. For example, “I’ll be lighting a candle for our cousin . . . on Christmas Eve at 8pm Eastern time. Please join me in your thoughts.”

  4. Purchase enough candles to burn throughout the month of December to remind yourself and those around you that Love is immortal, and that it is important to celebrate the lives of those now on the Other Side, even if we can’t see them.
  5. Prepare and mail out cards to those who may be grieving, and express your own positive thoughts as best you can.
  6. Consider decorating your home in the Christmas spirit. If those you love who have crossed over enjoyed decorating, you can do it in their honor.
  7. Plan and carry out huge random acts of kindness, the kind that your departed loved ones would enjoy seeing you perform – remember they are watching!
  8. Smile, and bring nature into your home, perhaps with a new potted plant.
  9. Call, text, write, Skype or visit those with whom you feel a special connection.
  10. Know always in your heart that your loved ones on the other side of the curtain hear you, and laugh with you in joy, as you think of them during the holiday season.

I can tell you that one of the messages that I receive over and over from our DPs is that they DO want us to enjoy this wonderful time of the year, even tho they are not here in the physical. Remember that they are and will always be near us, in our heart, mind and spirit . . . especially when we can take a moment to close our eyes and open ourselves up to listen.

Here’s a short poem for our loved ones . . .

CHRISTMAS
Christmas is a time of year
to go and spread the Christmas cheer
it’s not about presents
but about sharing the love that everyone needs
Christmas brings wishes you hope will come true
especially for the someone so precious to you
a mother, a father, son, or grandmother, uncle, or daughter’s love cannot be replaced
or the smiling you think about that shows on your face
when you think about them . . .
it is always
that place in our heart that we will always love the most

Reminder: Sunday December 8th at 7pm is the worldwide candle lighting ceremony. Join in and feel the spirit! Details are available here.

Have a wonderful holiday season. Love to all those you love, here and in your heart and soul.